"Death and life are in the power of the tongue:
and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof."
"She openeth her mouth with wisdom;
and in her tongue is the law of kindness."
This is a weakness of mine, because, though I may be somewhat of a reserved person, I still tend to blurt out unnecessary things and hurtful things. Even those type of things that are irritating to the ears of another person because they reek of boredom or nonsense.
I probably should write at least one chapter in my book on the power of the tongue for good or for bad. With siblings it is especially difficult to keep a watchful eye over our tongue because we are so used to saying whatever comes to our mind, and usually it is not what is acceptable (Rom.12:1).
"A fool uttereth all his mind:
but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards."
I love the book of Proverbs for all of its wisdom. Its insight of exhortation to the people of God is profound and absolutely priceless.
"Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise:
and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding."
There is so much perspicacity on one subject alone. From the verse above we see that even a fool is wise if he has control over his tongue.
"A soft answer turneth away wrath:
but grievous words stir up anger.
The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright:
but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness."
In all of our relationships (i.e. husband, wife, father mother, child, sibling, coworker, boss, pastor, relative, friend, etc.) there is an important key to maintaining a tongue of that which is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of good report (Phil.4:13). Oftentimes it is a troublesome task not to just blurt out as fast as out brain thinks (which can be scary in some of our cases). More often than not this is how relationships are damaged because we are habitually prone to say hurtful things to degrade others and promote self. From experience I can say that the hurtful words of our mouth injures not only others, but ourselves. We fulfill the lust of the flesh (Gal.5:16-17) when we give in to our fallen desire "to be as gods." To achieve this, and to reconcile our own mind to the fact, we first have to make sure no one else is in the god-seat. Dare we assume to take the place of God Almighty? God forbid us.
We as Christians are called to be the salt and light of the earth, but if we fail in the small things, what right have we to expect the bigger blessings from God? Too frequently we automatically expect the best things from God when we are not willing to be faithful in what we have already been given (Matt.25:14-29). And besides, our witness to the world is shattered if we are not willing to submit every area of our lives to the sovereignty of God. He will acquire our ultimate obedience anyway, for He is GOD (isn't there such power in His name alone?).
Just another thought for the day. Think about it. And bite your tongue.